What I learned in my 20s
I wanted to write this on my 31st birthday, but I was taking a break from my blog so I’m posting it now! I learned a lot in my 20s, and I wanted to share that with you. The one thing I know for sure is that it all made me who I am today, and I love the person I am becoming.
1. Enjoy life, go out with friends, and make memories.
Make plans with your friends to go out to brunch, a girls getaway, bowling, or hiking together. It doesn’t have to be partying. There is so much more that you can do!
2. Follow your dreams, not what others want you to do.
Family and other people in your life will always have opinions on what you should do and go to school for. If it isn’t your dream career, don’t do it. If it doesn’t make you happy, don’t do it.
3. Don’t be a people pleaser. Learn to say NO.
It’s okay to not want to do something. If it makes you uncomfortable, say no. If you don’t feel like going somewhere, say no. You also don’t owe anyone any explanations as to why you don’t want to do something. Trust me, it’s okay to say no.
4. Don’t compare yourself or your life to others.
You will see people getting married, graduating college, and buying their first home while you are single – just trying to make it through all of your college courses. That is perfectly okay! Remember that there is a time for everyone. Don’t compare yourself, life is a journey not a race.
5. Trust in God and learn to not judge.
Learn to trust that greater things are coming your way. Don’t judge, we don’t know anyones story or life struggles. Practice empathy and compassion. We can all use kinder humans in the world.
6. Don’t force relationships.
With being in your 20s comes dating and relationships. Don’t waste your time on someone that doesn’t have the same intentions as you. If that person wants to be with you, their actions will speak louder than words. When it comes to friendships, don’t force them and learn to let them go.
7. Take care of your mind, body and soul.
-Practice gratitude
-Try to get plenty of sleep
-Exercise
-Eat healthier
-Take care of your skin
-Go for walks
-Yoga is amazing to practice
8. Your parents will become your best friends.
My parents have always been my best friends. As you get older, you realize that your parents will always love you unconditionally. They both get me, support me and always have my back.
9. Anything that brings negativity into your life you don’t need.
As you get older you will learn to let go of anything that doesn’t bring you peace and positivity. Of course, life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows but you will crave peace and to be around positive people.
10. Plan ahead, have money saved up for unexpected events.
I know it can be hard to save money in your 20s, but when you have a family to take care of it’s really important to have money put aside for emergencies. You never know what may happen.
11. Remember to take lots of pictures and videos.
My children are now toddlers and I am so glad that I took a lot of pictures of them. I even created memory album books for them. The newborn/baby stage goes by so fast.
12. Don’t forget to be included in all the photos/videos!
I know that after having a baby you might not want to be included in any photos or videos but do it anyway. You will look back and be grateful you have those pictures with your babies.
13. Invest in yourself & never stop learning.
Invest in knowledge: read those books, start that business, pick up a side hustle. Start now.
14. Your 30s are when life truly begins!
It’s crazy that some people think 30 is old when, in reality, you’re just getting started in life. Some people are just starting out in their careers, or having children. Enjoy life at all stages!
